Honoring the Memory of a Deceased Love After Meeting Someone New
As always, communication is key.
It’s been nearly 10 months since my beloved Lorie’s unexpected passing, and I still cry during my private moments.
I expect to do so for a long time to come.
Nobody who knows me will be surprised at the admission.
And yet, I am on the verge of rekindling an old romance with my college girlfriend. We have not seen each other in over 40 years, and after hundreds of hours of phone and FaceTime calls over the past four-plus months we will get together again in-person next month.
So far, the magic is still there. I do not expect that to change.
She lost her husband similarly to how I lost Lorie. We share common ground, and in that light as a prospective couple I must acknowledge we also share an advantage over others who have, thankfully, not experienced such trauma.
From those embers, however, has evolved a specific personal ideal regarding how to continue to honor the memory of a significant other (on the part of one or both parties) while engaging a new or renewed romance.
I use the word “ideal” for a reason, as I do not believe what I am about to present will resonate with everyone. I ask, though, that you…
