We’re No Angels, Part Four: Revisiting Ric Flair’s “The Wooooo Compromise”
The latest in a continuing series about how some men really feel about sexual harassment issues. Disclosure: This writer considers Flair’s messaging in the below document to have been unfairly maligned, and something to consider.
Firstly, there is nothing in the above document that constitutes sexual harassment. Legendary pro wrestler Ric Flair (Richard Morgan Fliehr) was selling these signed sexual consent contracts for $50 each as Valentine’s Day gifts a year ago on RicFlairShop.com, before being widely pressured to discontinue the offer. The contract is self-explanatory, and I am neither judging Mr. Flair nor asserting any sort of moral outrage as to his character.
Quite the contrary. What I am asserting is this: There is nothing wrong with the agreement. That will be my stance moving forward.
The prior three parts of my Medium series exploring sexual harassment issues have been increasingly controversial. They are here to review, at your convenience:
We’re No Angels: An Honest Man’s Guide to What Some of Us Really Think About Sexual Harassment
Last I checked I have a penis.
We’re No Angels, The Sequel: An Honest Man’s Guide to What Some of Us Really Think About Sexual…
It was the most controversial article I’ve ever written. Many women applauded me. Many men were incensed by me. Here we…
An Honest Man’s Guild to What Some Of Us Really Think About Sexual Harassment, Part Three: The…
First, I am not a billionaire, so that perceived entitlement is out the window. I have never grabbed a woman by the…
A question that may follow upon reviewing the earlier sections in this series is: “Why include an article on sexual consent herein, the antithesis of sexual harassment, or misconduct?”
It is well known in pro wrestling circles that Ric Flair was fortuned (or cursed, based on one’s perspective) with an active social life. Okay, he was a player in every sense. Why mince words? But in his original ad, as it regarded the signed Wooooo Compromise offer, he stated in writing: “Responsibility and Fun Go Hand in Hand! It’s A Sign Of The Times!”
Ric Flair, regardless of your thoughts as to his morality, is a responsible fucker.
When The Wooooo Compromise made news last year, its fate was easily predicted. The discontinuance of the sale was preceded by a brief outcry, mainly among those who — for whatever their reason — found it immoral. The ad was pulled from his store in days; his tweets promoting the sale were deleted.
As someone who has given a substantial amount of time to exploring issues related to sexual relations, who has been excoriated by many men for “consistently taking the woman’s side” (and I will continue to do so when I believe I should), I strongly believe Flair’s signed letter of consent should have been a flashpoint in the conversation. That opportunity was quickly lost.
So I am going to attempt to bring it back.
What do you think about such a signed agreement? As many men have expressed concern during the #MeToo era that they are being unfairly targeted, my next questions are to the women reading this:
“Though Flair’s form had been written in a tongue-in-cheek manner, could a consent contract serve a valuable purpose in your own sexual relationships? Or is it a waste of paper, just another excuse to be taken advantage of in a vulnerable moment?”
I cannot speak for you. I personally believe such an agreement may well have a purpose in today’s society.
I’m happy to discuss if you are.
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