Writers, It’s Like Sex: The More You Boast About How Huge You Are, the Less You Have.

Anyone want to take this bet?

Joel Eisenberg
3 min readApr 6, 2022


There’s nothing underneath it all.

If you’re a male writer, the analogy of this article’s title is easy. If you’re not a guy, take “huge” as analogous to how big and important you strive to come off on this platform.

You are not manifesting anything, however. You are doing the usual fake it till you make it shtick, which sometimes works and sometimes does not.

In the meantime, you are lying to your readers here. If that is okay with you, so be it.

Your branding and earnings ability will expire sooner than you realize.

While some strive to be important here, others strive to sincerely help fellow writers in part by sharing sometimes difficult true life experiences.

I’ve learned that by so doing opportunities, and money, follows.

Do you think it takes cojones, or the equivalent, to admit tough truths behind one’s writing journey in an effort to help others?

Ask yourself the following questions as you proceed in your own writing career. Note: There are no right or wrong answers. This is simply an exercise to help define your goals and values along the way:

  1. Do I want a writing career, or is writing a hobby?
  2. Am I interested in leaving behind a legacy, paying my bills, or both?
  3. What am I writing today that will help get me to where I need to be?
  4. What non-writing exercises am I undertaking today that will help me attain my goals?
  5. Am I marketing and branding myself to the best of my ability?



Joel Eisenberg

Joel Eisenberg is an award-winning author, screenwriter, and producer. The Oscar in the profile pic isn’t his but he’s scheming. WGA and Pen America member.